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It Gets To Be Easy
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It Gets To Be Easy
Unlocking True Potential Through Surrender
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Ever wondered why your intuition sometimes feels at odds with societal expectations? Tune in to our episode of It Gets To Be Easy Podcast, where we celebrate this milestone by exploring the art of surrender and the magic of following our inner knowing. Inspired by Kute Blackson's enlightening work, “The Magic of Surrender,” we'll unpack how letting go of control and trusting our intuition can bring more joy and fulfillment into our lives. Hear personal stories like Katie’s experience with her children's camp and learn how to navigate the tension between your gut feelings and external pressures.
We also delve into the transformative power of surrendering for both personal evolution and manifestation. Discover why patience and detachment are crucial in the manifestation process and how emotional freedom can be achieved by addressing unprocessed past emotions. By paying attention to the signs in our lives and allowing ourselves to feel deeply, we connect to our inner wisdom. We'll guide you on how to build your "surrender muscle" and how this can lead to profound spiritual growth and emotional freedom. This episode is your invitation to embrace stillness, courage, and trust as you unlock your true potential.
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Welcome to it Gets To Be Easy Podcast where you're granted permission to live your most healthful and joy-filled life with ease.
Speaker 1:We are your hosts, katie and Shawna, and together we've been cracking the code to creating our own realities with ease, and now we've set out to help you grow confident in this too. Hi friends, welcome back to our show. Have we told you lately how glad we are that you keep joining us here? It's just really important that we express our gratitude. We love that you're listening in and feeling empowered to expand on these joy-filled journeys together. We really do love that we get to do this alongside you, and today's recording our 50th episode dropped so very exciting monument for us.
Speaker 1:So in our last episode we were chatting about releasing the how of our dreams. We encourage you to step away from letting other people's expectations cloud that need to know all the hows before allowing yourself to desire, even if someone else may perceive them as far-fetched. We wrapped that episode encouraging you to keep a pulse on your energy so that you, too, can continue to hold the vibration of your desires. We shared that the magic of holding that vibration is in surrendering the need for control and trusting that your dreams are seeds for your potential.
Speaker 2:Yes, oh, my goodness, that surrender piece really brought us right into this conversation that we want to have with you today. Not only is the magic Surrender one of our favorite books of the past few years, but allowing the courage to go there in order to let go really has been a gift to our personal expansions in many facets of our life over the past few years, and so I'm excited to see where this conversation goes today. You know, as I was looking at our downloaded notes that we send each, and I saw some common themes there. Just some things were coming through keywords like intuition and courage, and even avoidance and blocks and the freedom and even manifestation was sneaking in there too, and so I'm just excited about this. I want to jump in on it.
Speaker 2:Katie, I know you shared a podcast last week from Coot Blackson, who is the author of the Magic of Surrender, and you were kind of tapping in with his message of awakening our intuition and how recognizing those blocks really is one of these key codes for us to correct. So what was coming through for you when you were tuning into that?
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think what's really nice and maybe it's just how my brain works, but always wanting to make it easy and break it down for people and I thought this episode did a really good job.
Speaker 1:He had these four parts and the premise of the episode really was how do you awaken your intuition, or how do you make sure that you're constantly aware of it, tapping into it, but also what's blocking your intuition? And you know we've brought this up a couple of times as we go, and there's an episode we're releasing in July of an interview we did, where we talk about it there too, but like how do you unblock your knowing? Did, where we talk about it there too, but like, how do you unblock your knowing? And one of the things that really struck me here was he said that when you go through an experience and we realize that, oh, I knew it that moment, it's like that's that point where you you actually ignored your inner knowing. You knew something was off, or you knew maybe X, y, z, but you didn't do it and you're looking back.
Speaker 1:So our intuition is always going to make sense in hindsight, and so what we're trying to talk through today is like how do we make sure that we're actively leaning into our intuition instead of always looking at it in hindsight.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh my gosh, that's so good. You know, I love how you're kind of pointing to that, like how we can look back at that and see. And you know, sometimes when we look back at things we start to think like, oh man, should I have done that differently? You know we can get tangled in those shoulds, but where we're going with this is not to encourage you to look back in that way, but actually to look at it and see that the more you get in the practice of this, the more connected you are to your intuition and so you're not going to have so many of those shoulds because you're going to feel so confident and have that courage to surrender to it, to be able to jump in and just be like, okay, I've got this like real heart feeling about this, I'm going with it. That's so key here. That really is cracking the code on being able to follow your intuition at a pace that is prompt.
Speaker 1:And I think what was also is that he really led into this conversation of our intuition is our unconditioned energy. So it's going with those intuitive knowings of what's right for us, what's a good decision for us, and I think, just to try and analyze it more deeply, this is something going. I mean, shani, you work with kids and I feel like it's a caveat. I'd love to know your thoughts on this, maybe when we're done recording. But my kids are in camp right now at the YMCA, which is new to them, and all the teachers thought it would be really fun to have these fake names. So they've got Snoopy and Salsa and Guacamole. So I pick the kids up on Monday and my son goes guacamole did XYZ, and I was like you had guacamole for a snack, like with chips, and they were like no guacamole.
Speaker 1:And then my inner buzzing started going off and I was like that feels weird to me, like my kids are in this place, they don't know these people, and like he's trying to describe to me someone and I don't understand that.
Speaker 1:And so my intuitive knowing as a mother kept being like you should say something, like the kids should know their real names, but the other part of me that's like oh, don't be a fun ruiner. But here's that moment where it's like I'm going to lean into, like this doesn't feel right to me, instead of being like oh, but would anybody else say anything? Because, like this is about me listening to my intuition, and so that's just one of those things where I'm like ego is blocking me a little bit, being like am I just being overprotective, Am I being a ridiculous mom? But then the other side of this is like my unconditioned energy is like this doesn't feel right to me. Yeah, so it's just a way to kind of put that into motion of where it's like I can easily be like oh, I shouldn't, because then I'm not the fun mom, but also, you know, I'm protecting my kids.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, we don't even have to go into all the thoughts of like why would someone even do that, right, like these are people. We want to know people's names. But I think what is coming through is just that you get to see that Like you don't have to judge how you feel about that, because you knew you felt about it, right, and so I think that that's kind of a lot. What was coming through for me, as we were kind of downloading and thinking about the surrender piece of it, is like how many times we actually block our feelings about things because we're like what is someone else going to think about this? Or what would someone do this, or am I making a big deal out of this, or should I just move on? You know we can get in a lot of stories there and just kind of spin in that, when really we can just have our feeling and be able to work with that.
Speaker 2:You know, and even have conversations in a situation like that, like having some conversations with the kids about it, like how do you feel about that? Don't you want them to know your name? Don't you want to know theirs? You know whatever that is, and then it's just kind of a little full circle thing for everybody involved. It, just like this, is how we feel as a family about that's important to us, you know. So, yeah, I think I think the I was hearing from that is just this freedom in knowing that when you have an intuitive pull for something, your feelings are legit. It doesn't matter what anyone else would think or do about it. Our feelings are legit. Now, how we handle them, of course we have to kind of navigate them right. You're not going to go guns blazing on situation, but having conversation about it or whatever is important, because we do want to acknowledge that we have feelings and be able to address them, yeah, and I think that leads well into these, these four pieces that he talked about in this podcast.
Speaker 1:And the first one, which we talk about a lot, is to make time to listen and be still. Which we talk about a lot, is to make time to listen and be still, so we'll start to hear and feel our inner knowing and we this is something that is not new, but it's good to keep hearing it and to have those moments, and it leads easily into this. Second of four is just stop questioning the internal nudging. So we didn't, we don't have to know why, like we can follow this energy. And my favorite way to think about this one is like, if you ever get that nudge to call someone or reach out and you're just not really sure why, but you're like I kind of feel I'm thinking about them, like I feel like I should call them, and I think that's I kind of feel I'm thinking about them, like I feel like I should call them, and I think that it's such a beautiful and simple example of not getting in our own way and just following our nudges.
Speaker 2:Yeah, oh my gosh, I got a few things to say about that for sure. So that stillness part, yeah, I mean, that's not new for us to talk about. That's something we've been working on since before we started chatting here with you guys. But one of the things that came through with me on that was, you know, in the Magic of Surrender book, even Koot talks about like don't numb yourself, like don't distract yourself, Don't stay so busy that you can't hear that truth whispering from your intuition.
Speaker 2:In those moments of quiet and I had this moment of realizing like that is exactly what hustle was for me. It was this numbing piece, this distracting piece, this staying busy, so that I was avoiding things that just had been encoded in my subconscious from childhood, Just really thinking like, oh, I have to be resilient, I have to get past this. You know it is something that I'm working through as someone who you know, positivity is my number five strength and the strengths finder, and I can spin anything into a positive. I can. I really do have the ability to do that.
Speaker 2:But I also feel like I do need to sit with that and know that it can create this fear of staying with negative thoughts and if I'm not allowing those negative thoughts to come up or those feelings to happen, then even when I'm doing this inner work, it really is almost like I'm just doing detective work and I'm getting focused on like okay, what is the root of that?
Speaker 2:Like where is that feeling coming from? And so that is important. But there's this nuance there, there's a piece of this code that we are cracking here that I'm realizing is just so important to it and I really want you all to hear this is that if we do that detective work and we just see the root of it, but we actually don't allow the body work like where's this feeling been settled in for 20 years in my body? If we're not looking at that, if we're not allowing some rituals into our life that are allowing the nervous system to settle and be able to find that stillness and get out of that loop, we're going to stay in that loop, even though we've identified what's going on.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I think that's the three and four. And you're breaking. You're like, setting this up perfectly is just really acting on these nudges, when we're following our inner knowing and feeling, like we can listen to our feelings, that we can follow our intuition. And, like you said, if we aren't doing that and we're going to stay where we're at and you can't like, evolution is needed.
Speaker 1:That's something that we have really been tapping into this year in these episodes is talking about how and this is number four is if we start paying attention to the signs and the clues in our life and your body where you feel tense, where you're shutting down, where you feel this ease of going to and not allowing the noise to keep you from following those, following those. So you know, just, it's so easy to create this and live this life that is constantly moving, constantly busy, and you're like, well, I'm doing things, like the days are passing, but what? Like? How are you evolving, how are you getting better? Are you happy, like, is this what you want? And so I think that if we free ourselves and to allow our lives to like be guided in this way, it really almost wouldn't leave room for overthinking anymore, because you're just so in the flow.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, definitely, I've been noticing that actually, where, how, the overthinking, where I catch myself and see like I would have overthought this one, you know, in the past, kind of thing, and so, yeah, I think you're right on with that is that getting into the practice of this does shift your ego's need to overthink. You know, and I think too that what Koot was saying, too, is just about there, really truly is this condition that we have had that tells us not to wallow in the negative, you know. And so I think that, for me at least, I know that that condition has had an impact. When I think about it is just like, yeah, if we can wallow in something, then like we're stuck Right. And so, you know, when I observed that, I see that what he said is like it actually keeps you in victim mode. It does, and so that's why we don't want to like wallow in it, right. But the healthy way of that is, you know, being fully present with those feelings and experiencing them with the awareness and the, you know, not judging them, but acknowledging like shit, this happened, and I have this feeling about it. Acknowledging like shit, this happened and I have this feeling about it. Um, you know, and he kind of went on to say, like, allow them to be, allow them to actually inform us right, allow them to connect us to that inner knowing, um, and to send their message Right, and then, when you get the message, you are able to move on, like I have noticed that there's, you know, something that came through my QHHT and my subconscious records that I call it is.
Speaker 2:You know, something that went on in my childhood during the custody battle with my parents and how my grandmother had said something to me that really hurt and I felt very abandoned from that. But in the moment of it happening, you know, yes, I cried and yes, I had the grief part of it, but I also had the I am strong and resilient and move on piece of that. And through some of the things that were coming through in that QHHT, I was able to actually sit with that and have these really aha, oh my gosh, this has actually still been stored in my body. And when I found that stillness and allowed myself to go there, I was able to go there and I was able to sit with her and be able to comfort that and be able to see like, yeah, that was something that you did experience and this is you know where your body has stored it and this is what it's meant for you and how maybe it's impacted some of the decisions I've made, or you know that sort of thing and being able to just spend time with it in stillness, and I've done that over time and allowed some of that grief to come up, whereas in the past I just thought like, uh, I don't really need that anymore, I've moved on. And I, you know it's fine, it's not affecting me anymore, I don't, you know, interact with these people. You know that sort of thing it did have an impact on my nervous system. So allowing that to happen and I just I give that example.
Speaker 2:You know it is kind of vulnerable for me to share that story, but I want everyone to know, like, if you're like me and you feel like you just have moved on or you don't want to get stuck in the grief, like that is a condition too, we feel like we're going to get stuck there and it's just been wild to me.
Speaker 2:I was just thinking yesterday, as I was driving into work, I just had this downloaded moment of like so much freedom, like there's this freedom feeling that I can't even put words to in my body of how it has been this spiritual upgrade, this connection to my intuitive knowing, this healing from allowing myself to go there and I think that's so key when we're talking about cracking this code of surrender is that sometimes we just a white knuckle and don't want to go there. But when we do surrender we are able to let go and then actually move on and you're not even having to feel like I'm moving on. It actually is just like kind of integrated and so there's just so much freedom there. So I wanted to share that as we kind of talk about this moving past victim mode and being able to surrender and have the courage to release it.
Speaker 1:We'd like to take a break from our show to invite you to join our Patreon community. Over on Patreon, we have so many incredible resources to support you in your journey to living your most health-filled and joy-filled life. We have journal prompts, we have exclusive host interviews, we have incredible resources with self-affirmations and guidance on how to approach creating your own reality with ease. We hope to see you over on Patreon soon and we look forward to welcoming you into our incredible community. Yeah, and I have a similar note that basically what we've learned through this evolution of surrender is that we need to feel it all the sadness, the disappointment, the excitement, the joy in order for us to know when we are and when we are not, in alignment with our highest good, like what's meant for us, and I put here too, like in order to know any of that, we must surrender and we must relinquish the perceived control on our lives.
Speaker 1:And that's the other piece you just said about like white knuckling. It to maybe not go through something, but also trying to like understand all the possible future scenarios too, is another version of that, and so it's. It's definitely something where we try not to move forward and I, like golf is like my second life right now, and that's the same thing that I go through, that evolution every single time I play golf. Don't think about the next hole. Just hit the next shot. Just set yourself up, do everything you know, go through your routine and allow whatever happens to happen and then detach a feeling from it. Hit a bad shot, detach from it. It is like for those of you who don't play golf or think golf is ridiculous, like it is the most challenging thing to do because every time you step up you have absolutely no idea what to expect and to let go of the control around that. I'm like can I go back to college when I played in college and know this now?
Speaker 2:I'd have been so good, I would have been so, so good, that's so empowering and it's just something that can come across so many facets of things in our life. Right, we've been talking about that too at work. It's just like what's the next best step, like we don't have to get so attached to outcomes when we're building something big and we're doing something new and we haven't done it before and you know you've got this bow and arrow, like you pull back and you go for it, and you pull back and you go for it, all these things happening and it's it's exactly that. It's just like you have to detach from those outcomes, you have to surrender, you have to know and trust that that next best step, that you get that message to do and follow, that you can and be empowered by that. And you know, I think pace really plays into this, because another condition that we talk about right is that we get into this mode of like I want it fixed. Like whatever the problem. You know we go into problem fixing mode with so much of this is like I want it fixed.
Speaker 2:Like yesterday, you know, and I was listening to this podcast um on the to be magnetic network it's called expanded and um, they actually have been doing studies and you guys know me if you've been listening and you know I love the science behind stuff. But they were tapping into doing some research behind manifestation and showing that it actually takes 60 days for us to have a neural pathway shift Okay, 60 days. And so I think a lot of the times, what came through for me with that is like, okay, a lot of times we're not allowing the time it could take for us to really have this expansion. You know like, oh, that didn't work. Oh, I didn't manifest that yesterday, oh, you know. Versus being able to do that.
Speaker 2:And I, oh, I didn't manifest that yesterday, oh, you know. Versus being able to do that. And I think the funny part of that is because we talk about quantum leaps and how things can happen in, you know, on speed dial for sure. But I think what the nuance there is is that we get so tangled up in attachment to the timeline, is that we get in our own way and we actually drag it out because we are so in the story of like dang, it didn't happen or I need it to happen now. And, like you said, I think that detachment piece is so key here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and we're so vibing today because the next piece I wrote down is like we must trust that what is truly meant for us will not be taken away and that, in contrast, when we feel like we're losing something, we have to allow it to go because it's really not meant for us.
Speaker 1:And that is such a hard concept to to grapple with when you're kind of stepping into this way. But now, as I think about it, how it is, I truly believe that. But the point about the 60 days is to have the patience just to keep holding on to the dream, or keep holding on to the desire, until you realize, like you're living it or it's there, it's happening or it's coming. And we but I think part of this too is just it goes back to the feeling, your feelings, like you're going to have moments where you're feeling weighed down and you're not sure it's going to happen. But as we look on to our lives, the more you allow that detachment or that surrender that we're talking about, or allow yourself to feel the disappointment or the sadness, keep coming back to that desire and it's going to continue to get easier and easier to live this life where you just allow.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it really does actually get easier. I was thinking about just how much we are growing our surrender muscle, like we're have been on this journey. We're all on this journey as humans, to navigate our own skepticism in all of this. You know, aka that ego who's protecting us from you know, not wanting to experience disappointment that's where we get in our own way is because we really truly don't like to be disappointed, you know. But the surrender, like you said, if we can just stay so tapped into the feeling of what it is that we are looking to manifest into our life, or wanting to experience, um, and allowing ourselves to have those feelings that even aren't what we want, and to work through them, there's so much power there because we're able to just be able to not be attached to even what it is and before we know it like we say this all the time before we know it, there it is. And it sounds so funny when we say that, but it's so true because we really truly are surrendering and staying on the journey of it versus attaching to the outcome. So, yeah, I think that that's spot on and, you know, one of the other things that Coot said was you don't always need to know where you're going to get exactly where you need to be. You know, that's the release we talked about in the last episode, of just releasing that how piece.
Speaker 2:And I think one of the most powerful things in this is that manifestations, you guys, they actually don't come from our thoughts. They actually do come from our subconscious beliefs, and so the thing is that's where the work is. That's where we're tapping in and saying we're doing this work in quotations, to really go there, to visit those beliefs and to allow this rewiring or what we've been calling redefining. Really, what it is is we're upping our awareness that there's a limiting belief there, that we're attached to something that we're so focused on the outcome we're getting in our own way. But if we go there and we tap into that, then that is actually how we get into receiving mode. That's how surrender brings us into being able to receive what it is that we desire.
Speaker 1:I love that and I think it's a good place for us to wrap.
Speaker 2:So take it away? Yes, definitely you guys. I love this new style, I love this conversation, I love how it just vibes back and forth and, as we've mentioned today throughout this episode, surrendering isn't about giving up and just letting the wind carry you, but it truly is about growing this no room for doubt muscle. It really does require this navigating our own skepticism and getting past some of those ego protective modes that we can get in. There are layers to our awareness with this. Acknowledging our subconscious beliefs is a great starting point for us to crack this code. But we can't just stop there at acknowledging it. We do need to make sure that we are sticking with it, allowing ourselves to unpack some of those old patterns or take a look at where we're you know we've got some blocks or we're even having avoidance so that we give our bodies, we give our nervous systems permission to actually shift and evolve. This is how we get into that receiving mode. Like I said, we get there more readily. This is how we get into that receiving mode. Like I said, we get there more readily.
Speaker 2:And so, as we wrap up today, I actually want to share with you all a little bit of an affirmation to go along with this. But first we want to invite you please go into the Patreon community for this. There's actually going to be a really awesome reflection tool that you're going to find. That's going to help really empower you and help you to dig in a little bit deeper on this topic of surrender. So don't miss out on that. Make sure you jump in.
Speaker 2:So let's leave you with this positive affirmation today. That's going to help you move past your own skepticism, lean into your intuition and embrace surrender. I trust in the process of my journey and I release the need for control. I'm open to the possibilities that come from surrendering to my dreams. My inner wisdom guides me and I'm confident in my ability to manifest my deepest desires. I embrace each step with faith, knowing that I am supported and empowered to achieve all that I envision. There's no room for doubt. We want to welcome you to tune in, stay close and grow with us. Come, feel empowered, inspired and connected.
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